The verse above have taught us 3 important things as a husband and wife:
1. Share your life together, as a companion
2. Be understanding / thoughtful / considerate
3. Honor / appreciate
Meeting needs is nonetheless one of the most important aspect of all. (1 Corinthians 7 : 3)
This is most needed in keeping frustration, conflict and tension from rising in a marriage.
You might have thought that fulfilling your duty is enough; by making sure that there is foods on the table, by making sure that the house is clean. But NO! Meeting needs of your spouse is your duty as well.
Therefore, there is an urgency to know their needs, and generally, man and woman are different.
* Man placed Sexual Fulfillment above all else, while woman needed Affection the most. *
Read 1 Corinthians 7 : 3 - 5 (NKJV)
Basically men are visual-based and women are emotional-based. In other words, men like what they see and women like what they feel.
I shall not elaborate on the sex part, but affection; woman needs to be cared for. Because it symbolize security, protection, comfort and approval. There are many ways to show affection, which most men don't feel like doing after years of marriage or even at the latter stage of a courtship.
Some of those are hugging, hold hands, carry things for her, write cards, give flowers or even express affectionate words. Somehow, those acts disappear after we got too comfortable with each other.
Got no idea of writing love poem? Read Song of Solomon 4 : 1 - 9
Being affectionate is paying attention.