Man & Woman: Admiration & Family Commitment

This series is for married couple, and if you are going to get married at some point in your life.

In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you life together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God's gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered. - 1 Peter 3 : 7

We have come to the end of our series. And last, but not least ...

* Man needs admiration from the woman. Woman wants family commitment from the man. *

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So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. - Ephesians 5 : 33

A lot of people said that behind every successful man, there is a woman. But better yet; behind every man, there should be an admiring wife. Man basically loves praises. No man likes to hear his own shortcomings. We somehow realizes it without even being told, just that we don't want to hear about it.

Next time ladies, learn to always offer a trade-off when you negotiate with man.

A family commitment is kind of easy-hard thing. It may sounds easy, look easy, but it definitely requires a bit of work. As a husband, man must take a leadership role in the family. Learn to spend more time with the family. It meant a lot to a woman. What does spending more time really means?
1. Quality time in the family
2. Proper parenting skill
3. Wise discipline (Ephesians 6 : 4)
4. Explain the rules
5. Learn to handle anger

Know we have learned all those stuffs, let us learn to apply it (for those married couple) and build a better marriage life.

Finished.

Man & Woman: The Support They Need

This series is for married couple, and if you are going to get married at some point in your life.

In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you life together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God's gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered. - 1 Peter 3 : 7

To build a long-lasting marriage, husband and wife must learn how to support their each other. By that means, they need to know what their spouse need. The kind of support that he / she need.

* Man needs domestic support. Woman needs financial support *

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What does it means by domestic support?

Better a dry crust eaten in peace than a house filled with feasting - and conflict. - Proverbs 17 : 1

Man loves peace and quite at home. They hate trouble in the house.

What can a wife do? Learn from Titus 2 : 4 - 5. Love their husband and children, live wisely and be pure, work in their homes, do good, and last but not the least, be submissive to their husbands.

We are now living in a modern society, where woman also steps into workplace, and work at home all the time tends to be an old-fashioned way of thinking. Therefore, it's also important that there will be division of labor. Let every member in the family know what they need to do. What they can do for the family. That's how husband and wife can keep the family strong and supportive.

Financial support, I bet all the women would say Amen to this.

But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. - 1 Timothy 5 : 8

A man must provide for his family. Most wives, or should I say all wives expect their husband to earn enough for the family. Therefore it's necessary to have a budget placed at home.

Easiest way to do budget is to do it together, and knowing the right priorities. Budget can be divided in 3 levels:
1. Needs - The most important! Basically what you need to live; foods, clothing and house.
2. Want - These are the basic pleasure, once in a while.
3. Affordable - These are the type of luxury goods, which you don't even need it to live.

Learning how to manage home and finances require two people. Don't be afraid to let your spouse know your needs.

To be continued ...

Man & Woman: Attractiveness & Honesty

This series is for married couple, and if you are going to get married at some point in your life.

In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you life together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God's gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered. - 1 Peter 3 : 7

As we continue to learn, I do hope we are getting a hang of it. About the importance of fulfilling each other needs in a marriage life or living with your spouse. Sit tight! This is going to get better.

* Man loves attractive spouse. Woman looks for a honest man and openness in a relationship *

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As we learn in 1 Samuel 16 : 7; People judge by outward appearance. And so thus men. The first thing that come to a man's mind when he looks at a woman, is the attractiveness.

Love at first sight, can't be because of inner beauty. For man to discover your inner beauty, it takes time, a lot of time together.

It's true that inner beauty is important, but men also appreciate outward appearance. Remember this, attractiveness is what you do with what you have. Just because you are married or you are attached, doesn't mean you have the excuses to gain weight and wear badly.

Man must learn to tell the truth. Honesty is the best marriage insurance policy. But before you get married, it is as important to tell the truth. People might tell you white lies are alright. But NO! They are destructive.

Man and woman are created to shoulder the same problem and the family together. Learn to be honest!

To be continued ...

Man & Woman: Companionship & Conversation

This series is for married couple, and if you are going to get married at some point in your life.

In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you life together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God's gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered. - 1 Peter 3 : 7

Now we know that to keep a marriage strong, fulfilling needs is an integral part. Therefore, to continues with our series, we will look into the second need.

* Man needs recreation and companionship. While woman needs to have conversation. *

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When God created Adam, He said that "It is not good for man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him." (Genesis 2 : 18). Well, it is biblical, that man needed a woman, and not a dog or any other pet. Alright, most man wouldn't agree with this point. But read on! (Haha)

Deep inside a man, he needs to have a companion. A man just can't settle in the house without doing anything. They love to have fun, do something they love. And even better, with someone they love. So lady, spend more time with your spouse, doing things together. It might not be fun for you, but it's good to build your relationship.

A woman needs to have conversations. Based on a research, a woman needs to speak 20,000 words per day compared to man who only needs to speak about 7,000 words a day. So man, please don't get annoyed at your spouse keep on repeating the same thing over and over again. They just need someone to listen.

And a word of advice, woman doesn't need the man to give her solution. Just listen!

Conversation / communication is the key to a successful marriage. A real conversation required an undivided attention. You can become interested in each other's life by communicating. Merge the interest!

Don't look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too. - Philippians 2 : 4

As of today, be more interested in each other's life!

To be continued ...

Man & Woman: Sex & Affection

This series is for married couple, and if you are going to get married at some point in your life.

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In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you life together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God's gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered. - 1 Peter 3 : 7

The verse above have taught us 3 important things as a husband and wife:
1. Share your life together, as a companion
2. Be understanding / thoughtful / considerate
3. Honor / appreciate

Meeting needs is nonetheless one of the most important aspect of all. (1 Corinthians 7 : 3)

This is most needed in keeping frustration, conflict and tension from rising in a marriage.

You might have thought that fulfilling your duty is enough; by making sure that there is foods on the table, by making sure that the house is clean. But NO! Meeting needs of your spouse is your duty as well.

Therefore, there is an urgency to know their needs, and generally, man and woman are different.

* Man placed Sexual Fulfillment above all else, while woman needed Affection the most. *

Read 1 Corinthians 7 : 3 - 5 (NKJV)

Basically men are visual-based and women are emotional-based. In other words, men like what they see and women like what they feel.

I shall not elaborate on the sex part, but affection; woman needs to be cared for. Because it symbolize security, protection, comfort and approval. There are many ways to show affection, which most men don't feel like doing after years of marriage or even at the latter stage of a courtship.

Some of those are hugging, hold hands, carry things for her, write cards, give flowers or even express affectionate words. Somehow, those acts disappear after we got too comfortable with each other.

Got no idea of writing love poem? Read Song of Solomon 4 : 1 - 9

Being affectionate is paying attention.

To be continued ...